In the bustling world of Nashville's music scene, "Gherm" is a term that, despite its rhyme with "germ," is pronounced with a hard "g" like "girl." It can be a noun or a verb, and trust me, it's not a title you want to earn.

Gherms are those well-meaning (but cringe-worthy) folks whose attempts to build industry connections make others squirm. Their actions scream, "I'm here for me!" rather than fostering genuine relationships. Sure, networking is crucial, but it's got to be done with a sprinkle of respect and a dash of patience.

Classic examples of gherming include:

- Handing your CD to a music exec who's just trying to enjoy their coffee

- Striking up a music career convo with strangers at a restaurant or grocery store

- Telling studio musicians how much of a genius songwriter you are as they fix your music

- Turning every chat into a monologue about your musical genius

- Dropping names and tooting your own horn non-stop

- Asking a hit songwriter to collaborate with you out of the blue

- Seeking appointments with producers or publishers without prior interest

- Showering someone you just met with over-the-top praise and being a kiss ass

- Acting like best buds with someone who's clearly in the "I barely know you" camp

How to avoid the gherm trap? Use common sense:

Think of it this way: Asking a stranger to listen to your music or meet with you is like asking them to donate their precious time to your dream. Your music might be your world, but everyone else feels the same about their own endeavors. If you treat people as mere stepping stones, they'll feel it and steer clear. Remember, building a music career is a marathon, not a sprint. Settle in, let relationships grow naturally, and enjoy the journey!